Help! I have been a loser! Can you help?

Before you consider yourself a winner or a loser… before you rush into conclusion… consider that life is not a simple calculus… there is a lot more to it than 2+2 is 4…

But yet a lot of my students consider themselves losers… so let’s see what the checklist shows, what haven’t you considered…

A successful life is built of projects.

Every project has five stages, five phases. any project. Work, fun, life, eating, sports, any project.

I have found this distinction very useful and calming. It stopped me from prematurely deciding if I was a winner or a loser…

Like you, I had always thought that life worked on the basis of “I give you one, and I get one back from you”… and I had to find out that life doesn’t work that way. Now, I could complain, and I could despair, and I could be a quitter like most people, but I wasn’t… I, instead, gritted my teeth. I think this is why they call that stick-to-it-iveness grit… lol. Gritting your teeth and doing it, for no immediate reward.

I can even overdo it… lol… baaaah, not funny. But that is a story for another day.