It’s Monday and it’s raining. The perfect weather for what I need to do… I downloaded the Days Of Power energy yesterday and it knocked me on my butt. ((The skies are open about 26 hours… so the energy is still good till 4 pm today. Go get it… if you are strong enough.)) Honestly, I forgot how strong these energies are: I had taken a break from them for a while. So this article is about the magic of growing. Or what it takes to be someone who can grow, someone who does grow, someone who, through growth, becomes someone more, better, closer to who they can become… So here you go: Even while I was up there, I was starting to get intolerant, irritated, overwhelmed, and raw. Then I yelled at everyone who, by now, were getting used to me being calm, collected, magnanimous, except yesterday I wasn’t.

Then I slept, got up, did some work, and then went back to sleep. I am feeling that I am going to do a few times today: go back to sleep. The question that Source cannot answer, because it is not a yes/no answer is this: WTF happened? Right? Why does a life-giving high dose of energy coming straight from where all good things come from is feeling like I am burning up (no fever), that something is being burned off (do I have stuff to be burned off), and feel like I would have been better off not going there? I have muscle tested this already… but the questions are more important than the answers. When you look in your heart and in your mind, you want improvement, growth like a walk in the park, don’t you? Barefoot walk on gentle new grass, while there is a breeze, sunshine, and butterflies. Hey, me too. But…

But I have had a long life of trials, tribulations, experiences, adventures and misfortunes, and pulling myself up by my bootstrap. I don’t mind discomfort, I am still “building my own house” in which I’ll live till I die, and no amount of discomfort isn’t going to stop me to make that “house” the best it can be. People tell you, I hope, to love discomfort, love the hard, while the other people say… hard is bad, it is supposed to be easy, pleasant… and these others are lying to you. But you were probably brought up by the same kinds of people, who spared you from hardship, who themselves had a TLB score of 1… and you are a TLB 1 yourself. Yesterday I spoke with my only friend in Hungary, who is doing this exact thing to her grandchildren. She is a TLB 30… you had to be tough to graduate from architecture school, and have a successful career and a husband who never pulled his weight, and two kids, and a house and a garden, and at the same time be the center of a private world of friendship, community. Yes, my friend is extraordinary, I just wish I came close to who she is. But when it comes to other people, like her grandchildren, she wants them to grow up without the heartbreaks that made her and her life extraordinary. In the second part of the conversation we spoke about the vacation home they bought and as a family started to clean up… She started with a complaint, but I laughed so hard and so loud, she got suspicious.

I was laughing of joy. My friend and her family are living a real life, got themselves into a “hard-work to make it work” situation. I told her how great that was. So she shifted, instantaneously, and we laughed and she got back to who she is: it is NOT supposed to be easy, in fact easy is a killer of the spirit. Of the human spirit.

No matter what others say to you, what your parents said to you, what you made up about people who made themselves a success in whatever they did: what did it, what caused the success is the hard.

  • Not trudging through… trudging is a mindset.
  • Not the moaning and complaining… that is also a mindset.

No, the hard is what makes you burn… burn off something. Like the Days of Power energy. Burning off the “not-you” so you are left with yourself… your glorious Self. I know I’ll be lighter when the burning off is done… probably by tomorrow. I can already glimpse it… as I look out the window, I have a deep sense of awe of what is possible, how life can be even more deeply beautiful. Yeah… not likely to happen to anyone whose life is easy by choice. Tomorrow I take on a project for someone else that is going to need me to learn new tricks, to take risks, to try my hand on something new. Wicked hard. I am excited. I have already started to learn… because what you don’t have in your head, you have to have in your heel… and I prefer to have it in my head…

Two reasons: 1. I don’t lie. 2. If you can’t even think of falling love with hard… you should not be here. Really. I can tell you to go away, but you need to know that you don’t belong here… you are a visitor, but you are not at home. I am starting to have people around me who feel at home… I am starting to have a family of growth minded people. If I were a mother, I would make it my job to strengthen your character.

When you are a TLB one, you have no character… Read the footnotes to find out more about character… I bet you don’t know and you need to learn ((

If you tell someone,he/she has no character,that means you do not like the person,because he/ she is immoral,or a coward,or very egotistic. He/she has character traits you do not like. Someone who has no personality may be kind,but he or she doesn’t distinguish him or herself from other people.

Abraham Lincoln said, “Reputation is the shadow. Character is the tree.”

Winston Churchill said, “The first duty of the university is to teach wisdom, not a trade; character, not technicalities.”

Our character is much more than just our reputation. Our reputation is what others to see about us. Our character is who we really are, even when no one is watching. Having “Good Character” means doing the right thing just because it is right to do what is right.

One dictionary defines character as “the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.” Another says it is “the complex of mental and ethical traits marking a person.” In still another dictionary, character is said to be “the stable and distinctive qualities built into an individual’s life which determine his or her response regardless of circumstances.”

Our Character Is What Determines How We Respond to the Situations and Circumstances of Life The dictionary definitions said character is a “complex of mental and ethical traits”, that those traits, or qualities, are “distinctive to an individual” and that they are “built into an individual’s life.” It is those character qualities, those character traits, that determine a person’s response in any given situation. For example, a person in with a strong character quality of truthfulness is much more likely to accurately report the facts in a given situation than a person who tends to be characterized by deceptiveness. Someone who has the character trait of alertness will be more likely to be a better, safer, driver than a person who does not see or recognize the potential dangers around him (carelessness). A person with the character quality of tolerance will be more accepting of others — less prejudiced. Success or failure in any situation or endeavor depends, more than anything else, on how we respond to events and circumstances. It follows that it is our character that determines our success. Of course, that doesn’t mean that “good” people will always experience more “success” than “bad” people. There are, however, some character traits that tend to lead to “success” and others that tend to produce “failure.” The question is, “What are the “good” character qualities, and what are “bad” qualities?)) Easy doesn’t build character. Hard does. ((If you get a chance, watch the 1997 Dutch/Belgian Oscar winning film: Character. Even just watching it builds character… I’ll have it in the subscribers’ area of my site, hopefully, in a day or two.

No character? Nothing to build on… no growth. Some character? We can build on that. And then you choose how far you go. The sky is the limit. Really. Read the rest at




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