Let’s talk about your TLB, OK? Twitchy Little Bastard score is your TLB…

I have been watching videos of TED talks, all grouped, themed, around practice. Around getting better at something.

I may be smart, I may be an empath, but I am no educational scientist, even though I teach. And I struggle… struggle with what I call TLB and what she calls yes/no mindset, or “now” mindset.

I have a “not yet” mindset, and I always have. I didn’t have growth techniques, so I never got really good at anything, but the mindset, that I had.

When you climb a mountain, when you look up you see that you are “not yet” on the top. And when you look down, you see how far you have come.

Reading is one of the activities I demand from my students.

Mastering reading,

  • first for the mechanics of it,
  • then make it regular,
  • then catch what you catch but don’t try,
  • then catch more,
  • then engage,
  • then reflect… these are stages that often take weeks each.

The end result: a person has one new area in their life where they are not a complete failure. This is significant. Because just the way one bad apple can spoil a whole batch, one area where you are good can carry over to other areas.

This may take months! For someone whose life is full of distractions, this is a big big big mountain to climb. But I have never had anyone who could not climb it.

I am an authoritarian teacher. Not a perfect match for “not yet” mindset.

There is nothing more important to me than changing your mindset from “now” to “not yet”.

Since I have read the books on deliberate practice, Peak by Anders Ericsson, and Grit by Angela Duckworth, I have raised my IQ by a lot, and I got a whole lot better at a lot of things I do daily.

I am going to bring deliberate practice to my walking.


  1. Carol Dweck Stanford Psychology Professor researches “growth mindset” — the idea that we can grow our brain’s capacity to learn and to solve problems. In this talk, she describes two ways to think about a problem that’s slightly too hard for you to solve. Are you not smart enough to solve it … or have you just not solved it yet? A great introduction to this influential field.

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Sophie Benshitta Maven

Sophie Benshitta Maven

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