See footnote 1

Between you and me: you probably have never asked yourself “What is it I am not seeing?” have you?

Why don’t you ask, why don’t you don’t look?

  • If you think that you know everything: you won’t look.
  • If you think you see clearly what’s in front of you… you won’t look.

You never suspect that there is something you don’t see or don’t know… Even though it should be obvious by now, than when things don’t work as expected, there is something you don’t see or don’t know. But you don’t ever think there is something you don’t see… do you?

  • The biggest reason you don’t see is because you don’t think there is anything there
  • the second biggest reason is because you can’t see… Can’t see much of anything, because you are looking in the mind


  • I have been training myself to know that I can’t see everything, or I can’t see accurately
  • I have been training myself to look wide and deep
  • I have been training myself to suspect that often I see one thing, but what’s there is something else.

I am doing this self-training consciously and I have been doing it several times every day for more than a year. I am doing it while I do what I always do. Not as an event… by as a “how”. Not a what that means taking time out from the things I do. I do the things I do in this self-training way.

Asking “What am I not seeing?” is an excellent way to snap myself out of doing thing without deliberateness…

The reason why people don’t improve, why you don’t improve, even if they/you do things daily, because you don’t do things with the intention to get better at them. Deliberate means: done consciously and intentionally. Because without increasing the challenge, speed, width, depth, nothing will change.

Deliberate practice: repetitive performance of intended cognitive or psychomotor skills, deliberately, consciously, intentionally.

Consciously means: knowing exactly what you are working on.

All of my spiritual practices require of you to know exactly what you are working on. If the practice isn’t producing the required or expected result, the error is most likely in your misunderstanding of the practice, misunderstanding what you are working on.

I have watched personal trainers suggest stretching methods for certain muscles that don’t even address the muscle in question… You are like that personal trainer… They/you never suspect that you can’t see that you are off… way off.

I know chess players who haven’t improved in the past 20 years, even though they play every day. Musicians, language speakers, writers, speakers, lovers, mothers, unless you bring a deliberate intention to your practicing, you won’t improve.

I often have conversations, coaching calls, where the next question’s answer was already spelled out, maybe a minute earlier.

NEVER in my 30 plus years of coaching/teaching practice I had anyone who didn’t go to their mind to look for the answer to my questions. Meaning: you “naturally” go to your mind to find answers… to see what you are not seeing. It’s not there!

In computers the ongoing conversation is stored on a RAM chip… And in your brain it is stored in short term memory.

If your short term memory is fragmented, too little capacity, frazzled, never emptied, or any other way faulty, your chances of learning much of anything are between zero and none.

One of the ways this lack of RAM manifests also shows up is in doing the 67 steps as a coherent whole.

Most steps are delivered in long drawn out sessions by Tai… and unless you can have it all in front of you on your RAM, you cannot even answer the questions: what is the principle here? What should have I gotten from this that is useful to me? What is relevant, and what is story? And how does this apply to me?

These simple questions activate your RAM so you can retain the content of the step on your RAM. But you definitely need to learn how to defragment your RAM, and how to dump what’s occupying it.See footnote 2

When I started doing the 67 steps two years ago in February, it was hard for me to not get taken away from the gist, the essence, the principle. It was hard for me to see the forest for the trees.

It’s been a great training. More than the content, being able to see what is hidden in stuff in front of you…

Every time I listen I ask those questions, and I am not taken to rides… the context remains the context… the principle.

would you like to participate on a weekly call where I address different topics and attempt to penetrate the invisible paradigm, the invisible part of reality?

I am talking about a call where I don’t say what I already know, or not much of that… Maybe 20%? And the rest is as surprising to me as it is surprising to you?

I have been doing this once a week, and I could use another call… to increase the frequency of my exposure.

The calls are free, but I reserve my right to refuse you if you can’t listen well…

Do you know anyone who could listen to them and clip out the parts that are useful and people would love to hear… Those could be part of a podcast: The Empath’s guide, or the Empath says…

Please let me know.

  1. The truth value of what you can find to read, whether it was written by a PhD or a lay person, is around 7%.
  2. Most of what is said is not true by virtue of it being false… And a very large part makes the whole of what is being said is because it is a very partial truth: narrow cone of vision. But asking the question: what is it I am not seeing may trigger the kind of looking that could dig that or at least some of it out of the invisible… even if it is invisible for everyone.
  3. This is MY methodology: I ask that question to penetrate the invisible part of reality.
  4. I call it channeling, but it is, of course, isn’t channeling, but everyone knows that channeling is good, and no one has a word, good or bad, to penetrate the invisible part of reality. So calling it channeling has stuck.
  5. The truth value of what I say, on average, is above 60%… and that “channeling” is the reason… The other reason is muscle testing while connected to All-Knowledge which I lovingly call Source.
  6. I do most of my work in conversations, including when I write an article. I don’t just write an article, I have one, two or more specific people I talk to in my writing… because it is of special interest to them.
  7. Depending on the vibration of the person addressed, an article is popular or goes right over people’s head.
  8. People can relate to the parts I write to my low vibration students… they can find themselves in it.
  9. I am selfish, I write more conversational articles to my high achiever students… at the expense of my popularity.
  10. This has been one of the things that was invisible until I asked the question today “What is it I am not seeing?”
  11. I probably should do a session on that! Defragment and empty the trash!

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