Steal back your future
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What do you carry that weighs you down so much that that you can never ascend?
Or what weight you carry so that you can’t climb the Tree of Life, until you put it down?
Have you noticed that making permanent changes, doing new things, doing things in a new way, going to places unfamiliar is difficult for you, near impossible?
Consider that you are dragging a persona with you. That persona is what makes the going so difficult, so encumbered…
A coaching client of mine began to build her persona in an incident that happened when she was four years old. There was an escaped serial killer on the loose in her neck of the woods, the radio said so. Her mother had left her in charge of her little sister who was in a cast.
There was a knock on the front door. She tried to drag the cast (heavy) down the steps into the basement, while holding a kitchen knife to protect her little sister…
Can you see the persona she built? “I am supposed to do the impossible.”
This is the persona she is dragging into everything, and her hands are full with it.
We, you, me, all built a persona, and it is in our way. It is weighing us down. It is whispering in our ears.
Want more examples?
- I need to be well put together
- I need to be smart, maybe even a genius. I should just envision things and I should be able to have it… like that… [snap fingers]
- I am only safe if I do things alone
- I need to be liked or I am dead
- I am special, I am a prince/princess. People should treat me like one, or I’ll get angry
- I am not worthy/I am worthless, so I need to help everybody, give my time and talent away
- I am of the wrong color to be, do, have anything of consequence
- I need to be told I am OK, or I won’t do anything
These are just a small sampling of the expressions of a persona… It’s not the same as self-image, by the way. No persona is good for you, because…
