What does it mean: get out of your own way?

I am noticing a phenomenon that is both interesting and terrifying:

when people include themselves in their cone of vision, in their visual field when they need to answer a question, give a view of something, they literally become stupid. Moronic.

What is happening? The ‘about-me’ stands in the picture blocking the view to what is actually happening. So you cannot see much, so you’ll make decisions from what you see: the ‘about-me’, and not from what’s going on.

I can see it on people, whether I know them or not…

One of the measurable ‘results’ is your low ‘how much of what you hear/read gets through to you?’ measure.

If what you hear/read has to go around your ‘about-me’, then most of it will not get through. Your ability to grok, to understand, to use what you hear/read gets lowered, occasionally to a moronic level.

Which means, for you, that your performance in life depends more on the size of your ‘about-me’ score than on your smarts, on your intelligence, on your education.

If it is a question, you’ll answer a different question… making the other person not understand what happened…

If it is