What makes you who you are today?

The obvious answers are that it is your past that makes you who you are. What happened to you. What was your education, your upbringing, your genes, your environment.

And all that seems to make you who you are today, and if you are anything like the people I deal day in and day out, you are not happy with who you are, how you are.

Why? How you are doesn’t get you the life you have always wanted, the accomplishments, the joy, the intimacy, the love, the care you wanted.

Is how you are really who you are? No, not at all. Nobody is. Or nobody is fully authentic.

You are is put together, while who you are is diligently covered up.

The distance between the two is your ‘inauthenticity score‘, you are being this invented Frankenstein-like person, sometimes very very very different from who you really are.

Thus you have two selves… the persona, and you real you.

The real self comes out from time to time… and scares you to death.

Another measure that will surprise you is your integrity score. The integrity score measures how far off your actions are from who you really are.