What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and
do that. Because what the world needs is people who come alive. ~Nelson Mandela
There is a word in Hungarian. It is very expressive, a word I ponder… a lot.
It is “elanyatlanodik”. If I want to translate, so I don’t lose the root, it means becoming a motherless orphan.
The word indicates that a child, at any age, goes through a fundamental loss when they lose the mother.
Half of my students, in some emotional way, lost their mother, the other half would have been better off losing their mother.
What do I mean?
Let me use myself as an example: I had a mother. Physically. But I got no nurturing from her. She cooked, but that is not nurturing. I got beatings, frowns, verbal abuse, name calling. It would have been better for me to physically lose a mother. I would be able to grieve, and keep my self-worth about me…
- Other mothers, in my student group, were users. They used their child for whatever they wanted, or needed, or fancied.
As someone to dump upon, complain to, or someone to proved at a young age, or steal wood from others. To save the day. To influence the…
