Whole and complete… and its connection to neediness

I just had an insight. I saw something I had never seen, even though it was right in front of my eyes.

The source of neediness.

First let’s look at what is a need and what is not…

We need food and shelter and clothes to cover our need. We may need a community, and air and water. Not much more.

Margoczi says we also need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves and other people’s expectations of us… Maybe. I am not sure. Maybe to the extent that we can carry our own weight… but not more.

But there are certain things we, as children, thought we should have gotten, and we didn’t, and now we pursue it, relentlessly, at our own detriment.

What kind of things?

• Attention, praise
• Being more important than something or someone else.
• Being understood, even though we don’t express ourselves.
• Always getting what we want, always winning
• Being considered important, maybe even a genius, but definitely more than we are even willing to be.