• miserable,
  • unhappy,
  • ineffective,
  • unsuccessful,
  • loser,
  • addict,
  • fat,
  • slob,
  • inconsistent,
  • lazy,
  • self-centered,
  • complaining,
  • lying,
  • cheating,
  • thieving,
  • using,
  • abusive,
  • pleasure seeking,
  • holier than thou,
  • pretentious,
  • etc.

You can win WITH the Opponent, but you cannot win AGAINST the Opponent.

  1. one I have talked about, the lack of skill, or even willingness to negotiate, the inability or unwillingness to enroll the ego in your cause.
  2. The other is new: I just saw it this morning:If you have unfinished business in your life, in your childhood, you can’t win the ego over: first you need to finish the unfinished business.
  1. I once had a friend who, no matter what he did, no matter how much work he did on himself, he easily slipped back into “I am not bright enough.”He was beating an incident to death… where some uncle asked him a question and he was not fast enough to answer… but handling that incident did nothing to change his predicament.Then, in a very intimate conversation we had, I managed to get him share that as a little boy living in the arctic area of Canada, he used to wet his pants, instead of having to go in the house, undress and pee…Play was more important to him… but then he was humiliated by his parents.This gap in what he wanted and what the world wanted was the basis of his life. Maintaining this gap was Ego’s main job: have what you want different from what the world wants.As an employee, he abused his phone privileges and spent hours on the phone on personal matters, chatting… and make the employer pay the long distance charges from Canada to the United States.And he did this everywhere: in his marriage: he flirted and dreamed about running away with every woman that was willing to listen.As a person, he would start long rambling monologues… and find that people don’t want to listen…
  2. You cannot succeed in this gap: because you need to have worldly success one thing and what you want to be different.
  3. Another example: A woman, married with two children, is in contempt about her husband. She blames him for everything.After some digging we find that she is emulating her mother’s marriage…Her children are brought up in this “gap” where they are torn between the mother and the father… but they are surviving.Ego, the Opponent, will make them repeat the same family dynamic, unless somewhere the chain is cut… and the truth is told…
  4. I spoke with my brother yesterday. It was a short conversation: he hung up on me.He has a history of being disagreeable, knowing what he is supposed to do instead of what the boss tells him to do, how stupid it is, and he has been unemployed most of his adult history.He cannot even see it… that’s why he hung up: it sounded to him like I am taking the side of the employer… against him.He cannot see that I am on his side, because Ego, his overinflated delusional I, can only see survival if he continues to be blind that there is another way.
  5. I have a history of depression taking me out… and me losing nearly everything I worked for through inaction.I woke up at five and the bed was so warm, and it was so cold in the room. I closed my eyes, and next time I woke up, it was six o’clock.Ego whispered that there is no harm in sleeping in… But I, the not Ego part, I know that this is the slippery slope that takes me to depression…So I commanded myself to get up.It will be like this, wresting every morning, until I come to terms with something that is incomplete… I have no clue what it is I need to complete from the past.But now that I have asked the question, The Sight, Consciousness will help me find it.

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Sophie Benshitta Maven

Sophie Benshitta Maven

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