Why do people cry? or why don’t they cry? want to know?

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There is a physiological and survival cause for crying.

The tears contain minute quantities of pheromones, the happy chemicals, that ameliorate the pain, whether it is physical or emotional.

There are different kinds of crying… from pain, from anguish, from fear, from being moved, from love, from loss. And then there is the crying from anger, from frustration, and also the cry to manipulate. To get something. To make someone feel guilty.

Some crying is incredibly healthy. Healing. Helps staying sane.

Other types of crying are incredibly harmful: they anchor the emotion: resentment, anger, vengefulness, self-righteousness.

Although this second type of crying is not healthy.

Students of mine who reacted to pain or perceived pain with crying at the time, are lighter on their feet, and do much much much better in the Playground, where the main job is to see that there is and there can’t be anything wrong in reality. That there has not been, there can’t be anything wrong in their lives.

I won’t talk about the methodology of how we reach that incredible feat in that long long course… but to be sure, students that did…