How do I know you think you are smarter than me?

So what makes one smarter than another?

  • your relationship to feedback and instruction:
  • The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score
  • The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately:
  • To what degree you think of yourself:
  • how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?)
  • do you have a bridge between your precious “I” and your actual I? What is your level of delusion
  • How teachable/how coachable are you?
  • The level of your awareness?
  • the percentage of time you spend in the mind:
  • the percentage of input that gets through to you.

These measures are all about how much you can see and how accurately.

Being able to hold your attention without narrowing your cone of vision

  • Let’s say your focus is to make sure no one says anything bad about you, that you can maintain your delusion that you are smart… When you have a hammer everything looks like a nail… you’ll hear everything as a personal affront, a judgment, a slight, an attack.Your hammer will then activate and you cannot learn anything new, neither about yourself, nor about anything else.
  • Same with having the focus on understanding… narrow cone of vision, context is missing… and surprise, understanding will not happen.
  • Same with “What’s in it for me?”… you won’t hear anything else, and you’ll even miss what’s in it for you.
  • Same with the Desire Trap… you’ll hear that I am your enemy, or you’ll hear how you can jump and skip to a windfall without any process, any knowledge, any skills, any consideration, any plan, any work.
  • Same with when you want me to be kind, nice, or whatever
  • Same with when you want things to be so… and nothing less will satisfy you… it’s not fun? It’s not just so… Not easy? it is not just so… Doesn’t agree with what you believe? it is not just so…

With a penlight of attention you need someone else to direct your attention so you can now flash it on another tiny fragment of reality.

  • you don’t tapdance to work,
  • you don’t tapdance to the people in your life, and definitely
  • don’t tapdance to looking in the mirror… because nothing is really magnificent, nothing is really up to your expectations.

Working with one of my students who volunteered to work with me, I managed to recall my many attempts to increase my reading speed AND retention.

It’s all about how much of reality you see, the reality that is in front of you, and how accurately.

I posted this puzzle for you in a previous post, the difference between make do, or make it work.


  1. I listened to step 67 in the 67 steps where Tai talks about a kid who has a toy business that nets 10 million dollars a year. He says: the kid may be smart, and maybe I am not as smart as he is… So maybe I am half as smart… so I’ll make five million dollars a year… Tai is not exempt from this phenomenon: he thinks he is smarter than everyone, because he doesn’t know what makes someone smart, so he cannot do deliberate practice to make himself smarter.
  2. the stages of learning are: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, unconscious competence. My job is to take you to conscious incompetence, or you’ll never learn anything: you believe you don’t have to. Once you are in conscious incompetence, I may be able to teach you something. But your “ego”, your Precious “I” will not want to let go of the delusion that you already know everything you need, that you are smart enough.



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Sophie Benshitta Maven

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